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Cold Feet

Now when I’ve been away from Paris for quite some time I get a little bit nervous about returning. Why? I’m afraid that I won’t like it as much as I think I do my head.

Before I made my first move to Paris I had the exact same feeling. Even though I’ve visited the city before I planned my move there I was still anxious and afraid that I had made up Paris to be more than it ever could be in my head… I was afraid that I had romanticised this beautiful, fantastic and absolutely wonderful city just a little bit too much for my own good. I was so afraid that I had made the wrong choice, that I would be super disappointed once I arrived and that my dream about Paris would be crushed.

When I arrived in Paris, in the beginning of what would become a few of the best months in my life, I loved the city, the people and everything else just as much as I had thought. If not more. It really was just as good as I had imagined it to be.

So why am I back to square one again? The same thoughts as before are running wild through my mind, just a couple of weeks before my move. “What if I don’t like it anymore?“, “Was it really that good?“, “What will happen if it’s a mistake?“, “Are you really sure about this?“, “How great can a city really be?“. I can’t seem to shake this feeling. And it doesn’t get any better when your whole life is suddenly turned upside down and everything you thought you loved is gone…

So please, remind me why both you and I have fallen madly in love with this city? I think I need a little bit of help to cure my cold feet!

  1. Darina    November 20, 2012

    Because it is one of the loveliest cities in the world. The architecture, the Seine, the shops, the food, the wine…the early morning walks….cafe au lait with a fresh bakes croissant. The atmosphere, the buildings, the musea…are you feet warm? 🙂

  2. Emmy    November 20, 2012

    The feeling of waking up with so many possibilties ahead of you. The endless choises of restaurants, activities, museums, shops, beautiful areas etc. AND you can take the train to so many other cities in Europe within just a few hours if you ever feel the need to leave Paris for a couple of days!

  3. Ammu    November 20, 2012

    The food, the museums, the sheer head-spinning beauty of the place. Have fun!

  4. I still have the same feelings. Thats the reason why we are going for 3 months and not just moving for a year. Thats the same reason I question with my wife on a monthly basis that this is still what we want to do, and yet we always say yes. We are human and we dont like to leave our comfort zone. BUT when we do we see how great the world is around us. Paris is a magical city that is full of discovery and mystery. Paris is a culture and way of life all to itself. It’s a way of life that some get and have a special connection with, while others dont quite understand. It is ALL about the little things in life when in Paris. When you know, you know. WE ALL KNOW, that you know, we just needed to remind you.

  5. It is understandable to have doubt about such magic…can it be real? Yes, in the case of Paris, it can.

  6. Freida Haoui    November 20, 2012

    I understand you completely. I feel the very same, as I am also planning to move to Paris and I am sure about doing it, but sometimes I ask myself the very same questions and it’s a good thing to feel that way instead of having way too high expectations.

    What I love about Paris is the language, the people (so multinational), the atmosphere, the streets and buildings that I love so much.

    You also have the fact that you discover new things daily, I mean you have the possibility to discover new things. It’s just so big and wonderful and full of history and beautiful places to be. Restaurants and Museums, Buildings and Parks, etc.

    I love the fact, that, when you go out the world is alive (which is pretty much possible in most big cities in the world), it’s moving and loud and people are everywhere and you just don’t, you can’t get bored, but as soon as you need some quite time and time for yourself you just go home and there you have the peace you want. Or take the train and go to a park outside of Paris.
    That is one big important point for me. That when I go out, I want it to be alive, everyday of the week. To see people, the traffic, the noise, the open stores and restaurants, everything.

    Taking strolls in the evening, or going for a coffee run in the morning, or just go for a run in the park, have picknicks in the park, at the seine or just simply sit in a cafe and enjoy being in this wonderful city.

    I could go on and on about it. But I guess that you got what I mean.

    I hope that you can relate to some things and that you feel a bit better. And you sure took the right decision. Just try to relax until then and take it as a new experience in your life.

    Have a nice evening.


    • Thank you so so much Freida. That really means a lot and you’re so right about what you’re saying. I just need to read it over and over again so that it’ll stick in my brain. Thank you so much again 🙂

  7. Vaneuse    November 20, 2012

    I might get a bit personal here,but in this case I have to: Don’t you worry child!…You have made a wonderful choice!
    I have a huge respect for you,because you leave everything familiar behind and start all over again.I will take the same step next year (moving to Paris – keep fingers crossed) and I have to struggle with people asking me if I am making the right choice,why I want to leave my comfort zone,why I am not afraid of leaving friends,my life and so forth and so on…And honestly I am quite sick of it.Because people should show respect for a person who is ready to give up and “old” life in order to start all over again,to go down a different path than the others.You have a lot of courage to do this,to move to Paris,to adapt to another culture and build a new life.But do not get me wrong – I mean it in a positive way 🙂 Think of all the great adventures and experiences you had when you moved there the first time and you already said it yourself:Those months were the best time of your life 🙂 Sometimes we have to break up with old things to make place for great new things coming ahead 🙂 Of course, this does not apply to everyone in every situation.But I think the other readers already made their point about the advantages of living in Paris and I strongly encourage you to keep this in mind 🙂 Life is uncertain,but you seem to be a mature and responsible person who is completely aware of what she’s dealing with 🙂 Bonne soirée à toi!

    • I think moving anywhere or starting over again should be encouraged! It really is a positive thing. Thank you so so much for your kind and very wise words. You’re so right and I couldn’t agree with you anymore. Thank you for reminding me 🙂

  8. UshaJoy    November 21, 2012

    One word: Ispahan!

  9. UshaJoy    November 21, 2012

    In all seriousness, it’s not an adventure if you know the outcome of everything that is to be! Take a leap and enjoy the journey how ever it pans out. *virtual handhold!*

  10. Sanja    November 21, 2012

    Paris got the beauty I need to see me through (like in Florance and The Machine song)

  11. Chantell    November 21, 2012

    Because Paris has it all. It has a magical atmosphere, enchanted streets, awesome architecture and romantic places to visit or discover. French people revere food and so do I. Please be aware that your awesome adventure in Paris continue to touch our lives. Take care!

  12. Carin please remember that Paris is still the city that you are passionate about and in love with, you love to take pictures and took alot when you was in Paris, and there is still alot to do alot to explore, and it worth it. Every post on your blog shows your interest, passion,love and that way you are now come back, to learn even more, to discover, to experience, to feel the unique atmosphere.

    Beside that 🙂 just a little very important detail:think of all the sweets you still need to taste!!!

    You’ll be good, dont worry and its very normal to feel that this is not a small decision to take ::

    Lots of love


  13. Charlotte    November 21, 2012

    “If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.” This is what I always tell myself when I get scared of new adventures or in a dilemma. I hope this small phrase will have the same big impact on you as it always has on me. And remember, your readers are with you every step of the way!

  14. Claire    November 22, 2012

    I am in Paris now, have been for 2 weeks and have one more week ahead of me. I lived here for 17 years from age 23 to 42, never regretted it and still come back whenever I can. This city is a soul match for me. It sounds like it is for you as well. I always feel at home here. Here “I have lived many lives, some of them my own.” The diversity of the people, the visual beauty all around, the depth of the favors, the care and pride of the artisans shopkeepers, the sounds of the French language from the elegance of a turn of phrase to the right on smack of argot, the children in their uniforms as well as everyday clothes, the daily parade of striking fashionistas, the art of patisserie, parfumerie, vitrine, antiques, the lifetime encyclopedias in the museums, the vestiges of the past….Yes, blunder boldly….your cold feet will find consolation in Paris. Dentfield May’s wacky but true song may cheer you on:

    Oh Paris, You were more than just a friend
    Upon you I will depend
    I will love you ’til the end

    I finally know
    That I belong here in this world
    That I belong here in this world
    That I belong here in this world

    • Ah, thank you so much 🙂 That’s so sweet of you.

    • Lisa    January 15, 2014

      Coming into an old, old thread to thank Claire for this beautiful comment. It was the thing that pushed me over the edge to accepting a job assignment in Paris this spring and I reference it often when I start to lose heart or nerve.

      Carin, I also of course love your blog! And will comment on more recent posts soon 😉

  15. Helena    November 24, 2012

    Paris är riktigt underbart som alla redan konstaterat. Jag har bott här i fyra månader nu och hade inte ens varit i Frankrike innan, utan flyttade hit i samband med ett jobb. Har tidigare bott i Madrid, Shanghai, Korea i flera år och flyttade hem till Sverige tidigare i år. Då tänkte jag att “nu blir jag hemma för evigt” och var inställd på detta. Sedan dök det här jobberbjudandet upp och jag tvekade in i det sista – för hur bra kunde Paris vara, på riktigt? Tänk om det skulle bli helt fel? Och jag som inte kan någon franska… Är inte staden bara en klyscha som man bara väntar på att bli besviken på? Så kände jag tills jag kom hit. Åkte förbi Louvren på väg till mitt hotell och kände bara “WOW” direkt! Och nu trivs jag verkligen, även om jag fortfarande inte kan någon franska alls. 😉

    Av vad jag minns från att ha bott i Spanien i två år innan så är det enda jobbiga att det kan kännas ensamt och man får en enorm hemlängtan som sköljer över en från ingenstans ibland. Då tycker jag det är extra mysigt att ha lite svenska vänner att umgås med. Hojta till om du behöver sällskap. 🙂

    • Nej vad snällt av dig att dela med dig av din historia! Tack, det känns lite bättre nu 🙂 Och man får ju faktiskt påminna sig själv om att det finns andra i samma situation. Å, det ska jag absolut göra. Tack igen Helena!

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