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Moving to Paris?

I’ve now covered a lot of the practical things you need to think about and do before a move to Paris; like making a budget, finding and apartment and figuring out what you want to do, but I also thought that it would be important to bring up the emotional side that a move can create… And it probably couldn’t come at a better time since I’ve just had a little bit of trouble with the feelings myself.

Doubting your decision
The first thing that I try to think about every time I’m doing something out of my comfort zone is “what’s the worst thing that could happen?”. And if you have any doubts, just like I had, try to close your eyes and imagine yourself in the city that you want to move to. What’s the absolute worst thing that could happen if you make this move? That you’ll be totally alone in your room, crying, wishing you never moved? Well, just go back home then! It doesn’t have to be harder than that. And well, if you’ve already payed the rent and don’t want to loose the money — spend a few months in the city and give it a chance! I tried to think like this before my first move. The worst thing that could happen was that I had to spend four months in Paris. And really, how bad is that? Nothing is written in stone and you can always make another choice later on.

Manage your expectations
Before I made my move to Paris I was totally prepared for the fact that I was going to hate it, that I would be sitting in a corner and crying, missing all the people that I loved every single second during the first 30 days. Well, let’s just say that I was wrong. I didn’t cry every single second during the first month. Actually I didn’t shed that many tears at all. I was so afraid that my dream about Paris would be crushed once I moved there. I was so sure that I had romanticised the whole move, the whole city, so much that it was impossible for the reality to live up to my expectations. I prepared myself for utterly and total disappointment. Which might, now when I look back, have been a little bit too extreme.

What I’m trying to say is: be prepared for some tougher nights, some days when you’ll feel a little bit lonely, a few tears and some hours when it doesn’t feel absolutely perfect. I’m not saying you have to feel all those things but it’s better to be a little bit prepared if you do. Try to figure out things that you could do if these feelings occur, then they are so much easier to handle if they suddenly should bubble up to the surface.

  • Darina

    You described those feelings very well! It would be a pity to miss all those beautiful things that Paris has to offer! I have never take this step in my life but you never know and then I will read this post again :) !

    • http://www.parisinfourmonths.com/ Paris in Four Months

      Thank you so much :)

  • http://www.fleurishingblog.com Susan

    Do you speak French fluently? Immersion is the best teacher of course, but that would be my main concern when navigating a move there and all the necessary arrangements. Daunting!

    • http://www.parisinfourmonths.com/ Paris in Four Months

      Haha no, unfortunately not.. You can read more about my language skills here: http://parisinfourmonths.com/2012/11/26/learning-french/

      Well, during my first move to Paris I didn’t know a single word and it went great. But that used to be my fear as well so I can relate. But now it’s been “crushed” in a way I guess :)

  • http://www.parisinfourmonths.com/ Paris in Four Months

    Exactly, I couldn’t have said it better myself :)

  • Haley Thompson

    I don’t know how anyone could have cold feet about Paris after reading your blog! All your beautiful pictures/stories are great reminders that there is so much to look forward to, despite those inevitable lonely moments and rainy days ahead. Someone who made the same move years ago recently advised my boyfriend
    to have lots of wine, cheese and tissues on hand for when I join him in
    Paris. I know there will be some really hard days, and oh the tears, but between your helpful words of wisdom, and all that wine and cheese, I’m already quite confidant I’m making the right move : ) Merci beaucoup!
    http://devotionwins.blogspot.com/

    • http://www.parisinfourmonths.com/ Paris in Four Months

      Thank you so much :) And yes, you’re absolutely right. I hope you’ll have a wonderful time!

      Best, Carin

  • The Stylist

    oh… it’s true! I spent my 4 months in Paris this summer and although my move was sudden I thought about “the worst thing that could happen” a lot. My stay was more than amazing, best time of my life actually but of course there were days when I was lonely and sad… Unfortunately the worst thing did happen and I had to go back home but it wasn’t as bad as I imagined. The experience itself was so rewarding! Now I know exactly what to expect if I ever move back. Good luck with your move ;)

    • http://www.parisinfourmonths.com/ Paris in Four Months

      That’s great to hear. I also think that no matter what happens it will always be a great experience! Thank you so much :)

      Best, Carin

  • Corey

    Congratulations to relocating to Paris alone. I believe once you have that dream to live abroad you must follow it. I too plan to relocate to Europe this year. Your blog on moving is very helpful.

    Merci

    • http://www.parisinfourmonths.com/ Paris in Four Months

      Merci :)

  • Jovana

    This post is great! Thank you for navigating me to this page. It is so true, I feel that way/ that maybe if I move, I wouldn’t love Paris so much anymore.

    Thank you!

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